International Women's Day Special: Naari, Aurat, Stree, Janani...... women are addressed by these types of names, so many times women are also called by the dirty regards, But has anyone ever tried to understand the pain of these women? No, no... So let's know about the pain of these women today where many times in the society they are judged with different kinds of perspectives...
If the girl is from a poor home then something like this is the behaviour of in-laws:- Time is changing, and with the changing times, many things are also changing. But even today, many people's thinking regarding marriage is the same for the women, daughters and girls of poor families as it was many years ago. Yes, this tag of wealth and poverty has not changed even today, whenever it comes to the fore that the son of the house has to be married, you have to find a girl, but the first thing that comes out is that the girl should be from a good big family, have you studied... Do you know how to work... Her family should be financially strong... So that whenever dowry is demanded, she will fill sacks from her house and bring money and jewellery and don't even ask anyone any questions...? But if they bring daughter-in-law from the poor house, then she is always let down and suppressed. Not only that, every day she is told many kinds of things about the helplessness of her poor father and the mother. She is always taunted. Called - What did you bring from your home... What did your parents give us...? Go and ask for a car for my son from home, ask for money. Demand for jewellery... etc...! Wipe out our greed. And if it can't be erased, leave our son or go somewhere and die. Even after enduring many similar taunts, a woman always remains on the framework of that house. She has always heard one thing from her family... Till the girl is not married, she's the responsibility of the house, but when she gets married, only her body comes home from her in-laws... And remembering all these things a woman spends her whole life inside the courtyard.
If a daughter is born in the house:- We always forget that a woman is a great boon to society. But still, they are to be looked at with a perceptive eye. A man marries a woman by love or with the consent of her family, but only in the desire of a son from her. Yes, even today, there are many such cases, in which most of the same cases come to light that many families in the country make a woman the daughter-in-law of their house because she will carry forward the lineage of their house. She is expected to have a boy first, but they completely forget that it is okay to give birth to a child, but it is not in the woman's hands to give birth to a boy. If the woman gave birth to the girl child, she is treated differently, she is tortured. When she is pregnant again, she is again tormented to give birth to a son. It is said to her again and again that a boy should be born in the house. If you don't give birth to a boy you will be... However, if a girl is born, she is sometimes killed in the womb of her mother or sometimes in a heap of garbage. How long will women continue to be victims of such stupid thinking in society? Even today it's a big question.
When girls wear short clothes, then...:- It is said that with time, a lot of things like thinking and attitude of people in the society also change, but it is very rare to see. Yes, this is a fact in which it can be clearly known that in any corner of the world, girls or women wear small clothes according to the trend. The eyes of the world are fixed on their little clothes, and that's where another new story begins when a girl wears short clothes. The people around the old and the ill thinking people start to die. Just look at how shameless she is showing her half-naked body... So some people say that this girl does not care about the dignity of the family members at all. If she escapes the eyes of such people, it does not take time to fall prey to the deacons of the filthy and the deacons of Lust. Yes, you read it rightly, if a girl wears jeans, top, one-piece, saree, or even a cut-off dress, it is said that wow...! What an item is going... Where are you going, take us too... Hey Chhamiya and many more. Many similar objectionable words discourse. After that, all this does not calm down even after coming here, then there are big incidents of molestation, rape, misbehaviour, murder, etc. with the girls. And nothing can still be said about how long it will last.
When girls go out of the house for a job, such things are said:- If girls go out to work, then it becomes a big thing for people. He does all sorts of things. Many times it is also heard that - oh this girl is going to do business of becoming a bun... So you'll be going somewhere to get your mouth art... Not only that, there are many other similar words like, look, this girl does night duty and stays overnight in hotels all night from home... Chhi-Chhi... What time has come... Etc., but why does one not understand that poverty can come to anyone's house, anyone can be burdened with debt? The elder daughter of the house steps out of the house to raise the younger siblings in the house. When the father's shadow is lifted from a daughter's head and there is no one to run her house, a girl is forced to step out of the house. Then she sometimes goes to a hotel to work from food, sometimes from the work of washing the false utensils of someone's house to the big offices. But how to change the trivial thinking of this society and the people that in today's time, girls also have both the courage and the right to work shoulder to shoulder with the boys.
If the daughters are taught more, then these are the people of small thinking: - There is no country in India today where there is no education, the level of education in the smallest village and town is increasing. But even today there are many families in the country where girls are not taught much, if someone gives more good education to their daughter, then the mouths of four people of the society are opened, and then things happen. Read so much and write... Go to the in-laws' house and throw the stove... Hey, teach the housework... By teaching so much, you will not cook your daughter... Oh brother, if you teach too much, then you will fight with your husband and sit on your chest... Then will you put the pickle of his studies... And also many things like that. Someone should explain to these small-minded people, change a little thinking with the changing times and give a good education to the daughters along with the house. Move him forward so that he does not have to face such situations in the times to come.
Marriage at an early age: Child marriage is a practice that has been going on for many centuries, although some time ago the government has also put out rules for this, that a girl should not be married unless she is an adult. But is this rule being celebrated in every nook and corner of the country, no.... Even today there are many parts of the country where this rule is still not considered today. In fact, in those villages, girls are married off at an early age to boys and men twice their age. If the girl opposes this, she is silenced by saying that - in the long run, you will put the bud on our mouth. The name of the family will be mixed in the soil. Or it is also said that - oh this girl is not getting married because she is having a love affair. You are a kalmuhi... We were ruined since you were born in this house... It would have been better if you were born and died. By doing many such things, the poor man is pacified and married.
Every hour, the victim of rape, torture is a victim of woman: - When everyone hears the name of rape, everyone's soul trembles, but its figure is not decreasing all over the country, but it is getting to see a rapid increase every day. At the same time, the victims of dowry harassment are many women who have killed themselves. Did you know that every 16 minutes there is a rape across the country, and a woman dies every hour? Now you can also guess from this that when there are so many cases every minute and every hour in the country, then think that the same figure is said to be said in the whole year. But still people were not responsible for it to the criminal but to the victim of that crime, an innocent child... A woman... Only a young girl is ordained. Then it is said that it was he who would have put the grass on those people. Oh, if you leave the house wearing tight clothes, that's what will happen... Why do you wear short clothes... Why do you go out of the house without a dupat... Stop working. Stay in the four walls of the house, only then can you avoid all these incidents, otherwise every day you will fall prey to someone's lust and put soot on our family and our mouths. Take care of the family's honor. Troubled by many of these kinds of things and victims of depression, women and girls choose the path of death instead of telling them at home or to the family about the atrocities committed on themselves.
With the passage of time, the thinking towards women should change: - Every day our country is becoming high-tech, new technology is being introduced. The way the country is developing. In the same way, the society and the people living in it should also change their attitude towards women. It should be noted that a woman can do everything that a man cannot do. Yes, when a woman can bring up her entire family by keeping the child in her womb for 9 months, then the woman can do everything. Even today, we all see somewhere that women do not get their due so well, and they are left behind, if we take a little bit of a goof-up, we can also change this mindset of society, and give women a high status in society.
Note: It is the personal opinion of the author, it is not our intention to hurt anyone's sentiments through this idea....