1. Keep silent
The more we talk about sex, the more often it turns out that the participants in the process may have almost diametrically opposed views on the already existing affinity.
If it is not about traumatic and unwanted sex, then, as a rule, both can talk about their feelings and wait for them to hear. So, speak. Of course, both should do this, but in the heterosexual couple, it is assumed that the active role will be assigned to a man. And often both partners expect this same man to know without words how to satisfy both.
Adequate partner will hear your desire and will probably try to argue that hundreds of his previous partners have ended from this 40 times a night. In this case, send it to these exes and remind you that you need a different way.
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Yes, forbidden phrases are evil, but criticism in bed means a dismissive, harsh and rude tone. If something does not suit you, you want to stop the process, you understand that you have missed an orgasm, your leg is numb - tell about it directly.
Perhaps the partner will be upset and ask what bad he is doing. We'll have to be patient and voice that he is not guilty of anything, just your leg is numb and the orgasm is gone. You are ready to continue this way and that, or to help your partner finish, but you no longer want to move your body to your side.
3. Offended by the words of the partner
Do not get into a pose from the comments of the partner. Yes, you may be very good right now, and you want to finish. Or you have already received an orgasm and want to bring a partner to it. But if this partner wants to stop, stop.
This does not mean that you are a terrible lover or lover. This means that the partner wants to slow down or change the pose. If you both respect each other, then the process after the stop phrase will be all right.
A partner can help you finish in another way that does not personally hurt him and will not require him to “just be patient.” And there are dozens of such ways , do not dwell on vaginal sex.
4. Do not pay attention to pain
If you hurt with some kind of action - do not suffer. Tell your partner about it. If you are hurt only by penetrating sex, but in general you want to continue - you have a huge number of options for another interaction.
If your partner said he was in pain, then stop immediately. No need to persuade him to continue, to suffer or to offer "And if I like this?". You will understand later that for a partner is the best continuation, but right now you need to stop.
If the partner is ready to continue, but in another way - do not insist on your own. The most common cause of pain is vaginal and anal penetration with the penis. If this is your case, then the penis should not fall into these holes today, and you and your partner can do alternative practice.
5. Ignore the indifference of the partner
Passivity is not equal to indifference. With ecstasy you caress some part of the partner’s body, and his breath does not lag, and he generally lies motionless, then this does not excite him.
He may be silent for various reasons. For example, she sees that you are high, and does not want to deprive you of this. But sex works in both directions, and it is more logical if the partners are excited by each other, and do not excite themselves about you.
6. Survive about orgasm
No need to consider orgasm the ultimate and indispensable point of sex. All the more point, which completes proximity.
Actually, an orgasm usually requires a certain amount of frictions in a certain place, and sometimes almost 10 seconds are enough. Most people quickly get an orgasm from masturbation, so that this partner is not very necessary.
If you listen to each other and are ready to change the technique and movements on the first request of a partner, then the orgasm will most likely come to both. And do not dwell on your orgasm, it will lead, rather, to the opposite.
Do not imitate orgasm. Do not be offended by the words of a partner that he did not have an orgasm - all these are normal components of sex. It may be incredibly hard to talk and hear about this, but this will help you to better understand each other in the future.
7. Feel free to voice your desires
If you want to try something new, do not hesitate to offer it to your partner. But it would be more correct for everyone if the request sounds like this: “I want to be tied up and spanked ”, but not like this: “I really want to insert an anal plug in you”.
In the first case, you voice your desire and place the responsibility for your implementation and your comfort on the other. If you ask for some action, then at least you are ready to try, as a maximum - you will be very pleased.
In the second case, you ask the partner to do something with him and take responsibility for his comfort. And a person with whom they will do something new for him is less likely to be pleased only if you have not guessed his secret desire.
If you still stopped at the second option, then follow a simple rule: ask the girl about the anal plug - be ready to check it first on yourself. Correctly calculate the intensity and strength of the impact is possible only if you understand what the partner feels.
8. Use scented wax candles as a sex toy.
Just don't do it. It is almost always a burn and an allergic reaction.
9. Having sex with people just because you decide they want it.
People do not want sex 24/7. Here is an experiment in which three couples had to have sex every day for a month as evidence. They became ill.
If a man came to your apartment - he does not necessarily want sex. When a person decides whether he wants closeness at the moment, the personal characteristics of the partner play almost the last role. Sex is not about maintaining your confidence.
More sex is not always about sympathy. If this is your regular partner, then it is logical to assume that you like each other, but you may not want sex.
If your plans to bring a person to orgasm, it is useful to remember that this requires a relaxed brain. A person who, in the process of frictions, will think how much he wants to be here, will not be able to relax. And then for you, it will be masturbation and for the second - bad sex.
10. Having sex with a drunk person.
Whether any sex is considered drunk or violently high is a very exciting Runet question. No, it is not, if both are in the same state: they have little and who can interfere.
But more often one of the partners is better in control. And it is easy to check: the one who brought the second one to the apartment is in a more adequate state, and he is responsible for the safety of the one who undertook.
In such a situation, one life hack is useful. If you are a drunk person and you want to have sex with him - ask yourself if you would trust him to get behind the wheel of your car. If not, then you can’t have sex with him.
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