Parenting is a very complicated process but it involved various memorable events of our life. Parenting frames child’s entire personality. Parenting has a very big role in the flaws and strength of your child. As a parent you give your children a good start in life—you nurture, protect and guide them. Parenting is a process that prepares your child for independence. As your child grows and develops, there are many things you can do to help your child. When the child is small we usually tell them different things but these things really affect their personality. Here are 5 things you should never tell your child.
Do not talk to strangers: While using these words your are giving birth to fear in child’s mind. Kids may take this rule the wrong way and resist the help of police officers or firefighters whom they don't know. Instead of warning them about strangers, bring up scenarios, like "what would you do if a man you don't know offers you candy and a ride home?", and have them explain what they'd do.
We cannot afford this: It is a negative phrase to say. Doing so sends the message that you're not in control of your finances, which can be scary for kids. Instead of this tell them, We're not going to buy that because we're saving our money for more important things or if they are demanding something unworthy. Explained them that their demand is wrong f they insist on discussing it, you have a perfect window to start a conversation about how to budget and manage money.
Do not Cry: Giving false reasons of stop crying. Telling children to stop crying makes them feel like they are wrong for showing emotion. As much as it may be frustrating for parents, it doesn’t help to demonise your child for doing something that children do naturally. You are essentially invalidating their feelings.
Do not compare: Your friend or your brother is better. Any compliment that’s followed by “but” should be avoided as it takes away the meaning of the compliment itself. Celebrating small victories is a way to motivate children to constantly do well. Using the word “but” will make them feel like they have not really made you proud and didn't do enough, which will certainly do more harm than good.
Do not Limit Your Child: Telling your child this not for girls or boys is very wrong. Limiting boys and girls to what they can and cannot do based on their sex tells them make them feel inferior. Saying there are certain ways that boys should behave and certain ways that girls should behave and if they don’t comply, it is wrong. It puts children in boxes and they grow up believing in toxic societal gender roles and they build a mindset like this.