A day after pictures of grieving Bollywood celebs from Veeru Devgan's funeral surfaced on social media, netizens spotted Ajay and Kajol's daughter Nysa smiling while making her way out of a posh salon. A section of Instagram users found it insensitive on Nysa's part to visit a parlour just a day after her grandfather's death.  "Is she ok? Yesterday her grandfather expired. She is going to salon. Bade log badi baatein," wrote an user on a picture shared by paparazzo Manav Manglani. Another added, "If she wanted a blowdry she could easily call someone at home to get it rather than parading into a salon." A few comments on Manav's post also highlighted how he could have restrained from sharing photos of a smiling Nysa as by doing so he invited trolling upon her.

Performantive mourning has always been an integral part of the Indian society, as a means to not only commemorate the departed but also stoke feelings of community and oneness.  Although various traditions related to mourning have died out in many regions, social media platforms like Twitter and Instagram seem to be bringing back the idea of collective mourning back in vogue. The 'RIP' hashtags and the online weeping sets in immediately after a celebrity dies and those who refuse to 'perform' are then trolled.

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Last year Sridevi's elder daughter and actor Janhvi Kapoor was trolled mercillesly for celebrating her birthday just 10 days after her superstar mother accidentally drowned at a hotel bathtub in Dubai. Earlier this year, comedian Mallika Dua prompted outrage on social media after she slammed 'keyboard warriors' for shaming people who are not publically mourning the death of the 49 CRPF jawaans who lost their lives in the Pulwama terror attack. We as a nation need to understand that grieving is an intensely personal journey and that it's not the same for everyone. A person can get over someone's death in a few hours while another might need years to cope up with it. There's no "right" amount of time to grieve. Your grieving process depends on a number of things, like your personality, age, beliefs, and support network. The type of loss is also a factor.

I understand that we’ve been fed a bunch of myths regarding grief but it's high time that we understand that deciding the duration of a person's grief is as dangerous as asking a clinically depressed person to 'move on'.

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