Relationships are very important parts of our life it does not only impact our personal life but also our professional life. Especially problems in marriage it is important to have relationship conversations before they tie the knot, you’d be surprised how many issues get swept under the carpet or ignored completely. Here are some discussion which you have to do before marriage so as to avoid future problems
Baby Plans: It might sound difficult but it is important to discuss about these plans. As these days the preference of people are changing they want time so to discuss it and ask things like Whether it’s down to infertility, or if you have extra steps to overcome to become parents, you need to discuss this. What are your thoughts on IVF, adoption, surrogacy, fostering or any other routes to parenthood.
Finance: Very important and most ignored part of relationship is money. In starting money is not important but after some time money matters. Discuss questions like Will we merge our finances? Share a bank account?, How will we make big financial decisions? How about little ones? Do you have any debt? Are you a spender or a saver? Etc . As in many marriage the cause of trouble is Finance.
Responsibilities: One the most common frustration with couples is the balance of professional responsibilities and domestic duties. Are there gender roles, or other preconceived notions affecting the expectations of each partner Is there room for flexibility when it comes to managing the home, or are there rigid boundaries. Some people believe in sharing responsibility equally while some based on gender or any other factors. It is important to make it clear.
Career Preferences: For some people, a job is just a job. And for some it is life. Discuss how much your job means to you - it might keep you tied to a certain area, or mean you’ll never settle in one place for long. It might mean you may never earn much, or that you work unpredictable hours. Make it clear how attached you are to your job because there may be times in married life where you might need to move, stop working for a while or be the main breadwinner.
Honest conversation: Do not hide anything as at the end of the day you will get in trouble. So it is best to have an an open and honest conversation. Lee reminds couples that there's often "something a lot deeper" to the positions people hold. Whether it's fears surrounding being a good spouse or parent, or fears of conflict, couples need to be able to find ways to identify those fears and nurture security around them.
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