These days divorce is very common and it is also true that divorce affects the child. It also affects the personality of your child. After a divorce, both partners retain parental responsibility for the children. Both partners remain responsible for raising and caring for the children. After divorce, a family went to different financial and emotion changes but the life of a kid is totally changed after the parent’s divorce. Some kids also went to depression. Here are 5 effective ways to deal with kids after separation.
Tell them you are there: When a parent regularly doesn't come through, kids assume that they are somehow to blame. They believe, then surely their parent would not want to be with them. For some people, it is not possible to visit children after divorce but express your feeling. Tell them you miss and love them. Make them believe that you are always there and they are not the reason of your divorce.
Let them express their feeling: Expressing themselves gives kids a sense of empowerment and can help ease their frustration. Your child will feel better knowing he made an effort to remedy the situation. Talk to your child about voicing disappointment without lashing out in anger. Your child may express his disappointment with your divorce do not stop them or try to give excuses. Maintain an environment in which your child can share all his feeling without hesitation.
Include family members: If it is possible then make sure that your parents can spend time with both the friends and if it is not possible then involves family members, grand parents. So your child will not feel lonely or his dream of happy family will not vanish. Not only are devoted family members and friends role models your child can depend on, but their commitment takes pressure off you.
Do not involve kids in your fight: Conversations regarding unreliability or finances should take place on the phone when your kids aren't around. Those kids who are exposed to ongoing parental battles are affected with it badly. Avoid talking badly about the other parent or blaming the individual, even if you are angry. Children love and need both of their parents.
Extra support and care: Divorce affect children’s behavior. It is common for children to wet their bed, or refuse to listen, do not want to talk with anyone. They will need extra time, support, and open communication. Over time these symptoms will dissipate as they adapt to the changes.